We Are All Working Moms

January 12, 2006 | By karen |

As Mom’s we all work. Raising children is a full time, 7 days a week, 24 hours a day job period, Best job you’ll ever love and all of that. But many mom’s have other jobs outside the home, away from their children. There seems to be a continuous debate among the ’stay at home’ moms and the ‘working moms’. Questions like “Should a mom work outside the home when they don’t need the money?” and “Is daycare harmful to our children?’ and so on and on and on. And like so many other hot-button issues there are those who claim that one way is better than the other way, and they have the studies to prove it and on and on and on again.
Well, I want to say that this issue is not “Black and White” with only one right answer. Some women are better mom’s when they go out and work and some women are better mom’s when they stay at home with their children. Contrary to what some of the purists would have you believe, this is not a ‘one size fits all’ issue.
Some children do very well in daycare situations and some may not do as well.
There are studies of children that claim that daycare situations are good for children for their social development and other studies that claim that daycare creates more aggressive children and can be damaging to their social development. Don’t you think it really depends upon the child, the parents and their own individual situation? Why can’t we all just realize that different people have different needs and situations and we all are just trying to do what is best for us?
When I think of this issue, I am reminded that Andrea Yates, the woman who killed her 5 children in that horrifying crime, did homeschooling of all of her children. Maybe she did not have the temperament to handle the stress of homeschooling. I don’t know, but I do know that homeschooling is not a job that I believe I could handle well! Maybe Andrea Yates would have been a better mom had she been able to get away from those kids on a daily basis as she went to a stimulating job outside of her home. Staying home all day with only kids to talk to can be stressful, ask any stay at home mom of more than one kid. Add homeschooling stress on top, maybe that helped push her over the edge. Maybe not, but it is something to think about.
My point is, that as moms we all work, we all share many of the same stresses and what is good for me may not be as good for you, so why don’t the ’stay at home’ moms and the ‘working’ moms unite together and support each other instead of putting other moms down and making them feel guilty for their decisions that may be different from our own.

We Are All Working Moms

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